Since the beginning my concept for Well-Met was to be a beacon of goodness for men. I have used many words to express that, mostly by others much wiser than me such as in the Well-Met Code and the quotes I list there to support the four values of Enterprise, Decision, Compassion, and Sincerity. But with lots of great quotes floating around today, all from the mind and soul of Martin Luther King, Jr., I saw one of his that puts to words my idea:
That has been my goal from the beginning. To never dwell on the negative, to never give the dark emotions, the hate, a place, but rather to report on the light and love that all men have within them.
It can be hard sometimes. There are things I would like to speak out against, but instead I choose to only speak for things. Things that make a man a good man.
Finding examples of men to report on can be hard, since we raise people up but men can fall, and we don’t seem to help the men on top stay there. I even had to make the decision to not use the word that could and should be used for the values I want to promote – gentleman – because today it no longer means what it once did. Today a ‘gentleman’s’ club is no place for a gentleman, a ‘gentleman’ is seen as a weak ‘gentle’ man, a ‘gentleman’ means a fop only interested in expensive things. And so instead I chose Well-Met Man, from the old saying ‘Hail fellow, well met’, and referring to a state of wellness of mind, body, and soul.
Luckily there is at least one man I can turn to for inspiration. If you want to know what to say and do to be a Well-Met Man, a true gentleman, do what MLK did. If you want to be a real man, even for just one day, be King. To be King you need to lead people, to inspire them, to care for those less fortunate than you.
One of the biggest things we stress here is serving others, that you grow by helping others grow, you become well by helping others be well, and here too King has the perfect words:
‘Everybody can be great, because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.’
In a time when people may be down on themselves, they lost their job or wages, lost property or the value of their property, their retirement plans are affected, it can be easy to lose sight of your own value. But as King said, your true value lies in the value you can give others, not the value you own. As I spoke about in my Free-lancing article, service and volunteering can be a great way to learn and practice for the next step. It is easy to think of charity, giving, as giving money, but it truly means giving your time, your light, your love, to others to that they can grow and as they do, you will too. And THAT my friends is what being a Well-Met Man is all about.
So today on the national holiday of Martin Luther King, Jr., but not just today, any and every day, look to King as inspiration on how to live.