Dwyane Wade, star guard of the Miami Heat from Chicago who made a stopover in Milwaukee at Marquette, recently did an Op piece for the Chicago Tribune about taking on the responsibilities of being a single dad. Before I get into more thoughts, let’s just take a look at his final words:
I just want people — men, and men of color in particular — to hear my story and know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no excuses.
Really I could end this post right there. Having a start athlete say those words is huge for all men with children.
A little background for those who are unaware of his situation: Dwyane Wade had a messy split from his ex-wife followed by a long drawn battle over custody of the children. In the end he won full custody. I did not follow closely myself and do not know the issues with the ex and why he did not deem her worthy of caring for them, in any case it is admirable for a man with his professional responsibilities to step up and want to be the sole caregiver of his children. It is interesting to note that he is following his father’s footsteps of being the sole caregiver – an example of how much we learn form our parents and why it is important to have good role models.
Wade says: ‘I had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it.’ Duty – that to me falls under the code Well-Considered – the virtue of Decision, it means to make judgments, be accountable, and be determined and persuasive. Know what you want to and should do, then do it. He also was Well-Meaning – the virtue of Compassion, it means have good intentions, to feel empathy and sympathy for the feelings of others. Be cognizant of their needs and try to help those in need.